Brief Mandatory June Vent

Because there are just some mistakes that I fail to learn from no matter how many times I should have by now, I always feels like saying something about my ace-ness during June. Not on social media anymore; I'm not THAT hopeless, and the energy of 2018-2020 Twitter has been coming back big time. But I gotta vent about something, and since I'm 90% closeted about being aroace in real life & between therapists again (thanks, new insurance), it's going here.

I ran into a great video on the absolutely dire state of ace rep in media from an aroace perspective from another aroace person who has many of the same complaints that I do: that the rep is half-assed & off-screen or limited to the same story in teen dramas and that even the best rep (like Todd) is still romantically oriented & aroace visibility is limited to characters who fit the "cold-hearted user/emotionally stunted nerd" mold. They also addressed recent examples in terminally online fandoms where these handlings have resulted in fandom kids (who have been reaching staggering new lows in their absence of human functionality lately) being even more aphobic than they already usually lean towards being. And what's in the comments?

Orientated aces doing this:

Truly one of the greatest & most useful quotes from the internet.

I'm not joking.

Kiddo, I assure you, they're not calling you a fraud cuz you're not aroace. They're calling you a fraud because they think that way about EVERYONE under the A-umbrella. Also, your omission of the T from the acronym in today's environment is... telling.

I just... I get SO tired of this bullshit. When your own micro community keeps trying to make sure that you're not welcomed & seen as a problem to be fixed or excised, of course the macro community will be doing the same. And then everyone else. Y'all don't even bother with the traditional "ur valid BUT" blowoff to aroaces anymore; you just tell us to shut up & stop existing so things can somehow be easier for you.

I feel obligated to show my aroace-ness in some little way during June, but it's never out of "ace joy". It's more like pure, unadulterated, destined-never-to-be-mitigated aroace SPITE.

Art/eternal mood by sirompp on Tumblr

Anyway, I hope everyone has a decent Pride except for exclusionist aphobes & pick-mes like asumi_channn961. I hope their Pride involves illnesses that make colonoscopy prep seem enjoyable by comparison.

(Also, the same sentiment applies to the respondents to the video linked who are trying to portray ace visibility as "ableist" because people slap the same "you're an unemotional/childishly nerdy weirdo who can't be trusted" stereotypes on autistic people.)

Sunday Sampler: Black Hearts and Pink Blossoms Edition

Sunday Samplers are a “lightning round” of different subjects, whatever I feel like talking about, no matter how random or trivial or rambling. They’ll make appearances whenever I feel like it, but it’ll always be a Sunday.

No AI was used in the creation of this blog post. I have been using em-dashes since high school, and I’ll be damned if I let either the plagiarism machine or terminally online witch hunters take them away from me. Also, any art is by either real people or myself (which you will easily spot cuz it’ll look like trash).

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Owen Hart would have been 60 this year.

Wait, let me rephrase that: Owen Hart SHOULD have been 60 this year.

Sunday Sampler: Accidentally Themed Edition

Sunday Samplers are a “lightning round” of different subjects, whatever I feel like talking about, no matter how random or trivial or rambling. They’ll make appearances whenever I feel like it, but it’ll always be a Sunday.

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Sunday Sampler: Clip Show Edition

Sunday Samplers are a “lightning round” of different subjects, none of which really warrant a full post, that have popped into my head over the course of the past week. They may or may not be regular weekly posts.

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Man, having a job that actually involves doing engaging work and being around other people really keeps you from getting too absorbed in your own thoughts. That's definitely a benefit, even if it comes with the downside of commuting on a known hell road twice a day. But there is another downside, and it's this - it doesn't let me get so bored & isolated that I start to think of topics for this blog.

Sunday Sampler: Like A Bad Penny Edition

Sunday Samplers are a “lightning round” of different subjects, none of which really warrant a full post, that have popped into my head over the course of the past week. They may or may not be regular weekly posts.

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So…

What’d I miss?

Hiatus time again

Look, I'll be as honest as I can. I am going through some very stressful work stuff right now, so I don’t have the drive to focus on anything else besides resolving it. So until this is resolved, I have to take a break. Sorry to anyone who was actually reading my stuff, but being able to earn a living without losing my sanity is naturally a higher priority than a blog.

UPDATE 2/4/26: So the work stress stuff is still present, but thanks to the recent sub-Arctic weather, it's metastasized into home stress. A flooded basement snowballed first into a new water heater, which then led to a new chimney liner... it's a LOT. I don't like to ask for help, but if you've enjoyed anything I've done, here or elsewhere, & wanna cushion the impending blow, I have Ko-Fi, Venmo, or Paypal. I'm in a completely dreadful place, so anything helps at this point. 2026 is shaping up to be the year that breaks me, and I don't want that in the slightest.

Sunday Sampler: Real Adventures Edition

Sunday Samplers are a “lightning round” of different subjects, none of which really warrant a full post, that have popped into my head over the course of the past week. They may or may not be regular weekly posts.

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I’ve been threatening y’all with more nerd shit rants instead of general life stuff. So consider yourself warned, we’re gonna be talking about one of my big five influences, the 90s Jonny Quest reboot series.