Brief Mandatory June Vent

Because there are just some mistakes that I fail to learn from no matter how many times I should have by now, I always feels like saying something about my ace-ness during June. Not on social media anymore; I'm not THAT hopeless, and the energy of 2018-2020 Twitter has been coming back big time. But I gotta vent about something, and since I'm 90% closeted about being aroace in real life & between therapists again (thanks, new insurance), it's going here.

I ran into a great video on the absolutely dire state of ace rep in media from an aroace perspective from another aroace person who has many of the same complaints that I do: that the rep is half-assed & off-screen or limited to the same story in teen dramas and that even the best rep (like Todd) is still romantically oriented & aroace visibility is limited to characters who fit the "cold-hearted user/emotionally stunted nerd" mold. They also addressed recent examples in terminally online fandoms where these handlings have resulted in fandom kids (who have been reaching staggering new lows in their absence of human functionality lately) being even more aphobic than they already usually lean towards being. And what's in the comments?

Orientated aces doing this:

Truly one of the greatest & most useful quotes from the internet.

I'm not joking.

Kiddo, I assure you, they're not calling you a fraud cuz you're not aroace. They're calling you a fraud because they think that way about EVERYONE under the A-umbrella. Also, your omission of the T from the acronym in today's environment is... telling.

I just... I get SO tired of this bullshit. When your own micro community keeps trying to make sure that you're not welcomed & seen as a problem to be fixed or excised, of course the macro community will be doing the same. And then everyone else. Y'all don't even bother with the traditional "ur valid BUT" blowoff to aroaces anymore; you just tell us to shut up & stop existing so things can somehow be easier for you.

I feel obligated to show my aroace-ness in some little way during June, but it's never out of "ace joy". It's more like pure, unadulterated, destined-never-to-be-mitigated aroace SPITE.

Art/eternal mood by sirompp on Tumblr

Anyway, I hope everyone has a decent Pride except for exclusionist aphobes & pick-mes like asumi_channn961. I hope their Pride involves illnesses that make colonoscopy prep seem enjoyable by comparison.

(Also, the same sentiment applies to the respondents to the video linked who are trying to portray ace visibility as "ableist" because people slap the same "you're an unemotional/childishly nerdy weirdo who can't be trusted" stereotypes on autistic people.)